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Thursday, October 14, 2010

Do We Really Care About Others or Are We Too Selfish for That?

I’ve been watching footage of the miner’s in Chile being rescued and film shots from around the world show people moved to tears watching the rescue. It seems everyone has a heart that goes out to these miners, their families, their friends and their country.

Yet, I hear people on the internet (and specifically very recent conversations with people regarding cheating) who say if you sleep with someone else’s boyfriend/husband/significant other, you bear no responsibility for that nor should you concern yourself with the woman’s feelings because you might just being doing her a favor.

Are we really so selfish that we can’t bring ourselves to think of the feelings of another woman before we sleep with her boyfriend/husband/significant other behind her back?

I agree, he’s an ass if he does this to her.

A true ass.

But what about the women who are willing participants in it?

It’s not our obligation to be concerned morally about other women?

It’s not our responsibility to care for what she might be feeling?

This is all the guy’s fault and we were just taking care of our own feelings and should feel nothing for her?

Really?

Okay…so a lot of people feel that way…

Then…why are we so concerned about the miners in Chile?

Why do we cry when we see them hug their wives and lovers and children and mothers?

Why do we care how those loved ones were feeling while they waited…hoping for a miracle?

We don’t even know those people.

Is it because we don’t really care, we’re just pretending?

Is it because those people never affected us?

Can we only care because we don’t feel any better in our own lives by them being down there?

Why is the story of the wife and lover both missing their man so heartbreaking? Why are we not just rooting for the lover? Is there no compassion for the wife who discovered her husband was cheating like this? Do we not care about her?

If there was a woman down there and we were able to sleep with her husband while she waited to get out would we then have wanted her to stay there a little longer?

I’m beginning to believe humanity (at least the average blogger type of humanity) is able to feel concern and empathy for others ONLY as long as it doesn’t affect their own personal pleasure…but the second taking into consideration someone else stop’s us from getting laid…well…empathy out the window.

Help me ladies and gentlemen!

Are there still good people out there?

Are there still people who think of others and take the feelings of other’s into consideration before they act?

As humans, are we really, truly just out for out own pleasure at the cost of anyone else?

Really?

If you’re someone who cares…always…about how your actions affect the lives of others and you behave in a way that ensures you are not hurting anyone, please…comment…because I need a little assurance that morals and values really do still exist where mankind is concerned and that the little emotion God created to help us be aware of how our actions affect the lives and feelings of others (called guilt) still exists and is still being paid attention to.

Much Love,
Mercedes

3 comments:

tinque said...

You know how I feel about this. It frustrates me and angers me as much as you, YET I also understand the disconnect many have around this. Not when it involves others so much though it can occur, but more when it's about them.
I'm no saying it's right, but people can have marvelous justification abilities. People can be incredibly selfish.
Is it human nature? I don't know.
I hope not.

Angela said...

I read the exchange (lurking), and I agree with you.

Miss Mercedes said...

"People can have marvelous justification abilities" Yeah...tinque...that is so true. It amazes though how one can be hurt by something and still justify hurting another for the same thing. I too hope this is not human nature. Thank you so much for your words.

Angela: Thank you...as women, if we work to build each other up and refuse to take part in behavior that hurts another (no matter how much we have to "give up" for our own pleasure) then women will increasingly become stronger, more confident and more powerful. Thank you so much for being here! I've been very "hit and miss" on the blog, but I hope you will continue to join me here.

Much Love,
Mercedes

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